The Last Day of My 20’s

Today is the last day of my 20’s. The thought of turning 30 hasn’t bothered me until today.

So to help me with this impending change, I sat down and reflected on what happened over the last decade. A decade is an extremely long time looking forward. But looking back, it’s over so quickly. The person I was in my early 20s is a monumental shift to the person I am at 29.997397302.

Here are some of my key thoughts, insights, lessons, meditations, whatever you want to call it. I don’t feel that any of these are particularly revolutionary – especially within the circles of people I find myself. But that to me, shows that the key to enjoying life is to keep things simple and follow in the footsteps of those that you admire.

Early 20’s

In 2014 I was about halfway through my degree. I used to party hard on the weekend and was the true definition of a weekend warrior. Work was a slog, I truly hated it. But looking back, I loved the amount of time I spent with my friends, my partner, and the most amazing places we travelled to.

For me, the early 20s is still very much a path of discovery. Most people tend to be finishing their degrees without a job secured. Or find themselves in a career that they were pushed into by their parents. You are forced to make decisions that have potentially huge impacts on your life when you truly have no idea what the impact might be.

It’s hard to remember in detail what I was doing, but my key meditations:

  • Enjoy it. You’re young and energetic, go wild. Work and career can wait.
  • Travel a lot
  • Don’t forget that your 30’s will come one day

 

Mid 20’s

By my mid-twenties (Jan 2019), I was hit with what someone told me was a quarter-life crisis. I truly hated working, I failed my chartership numerous times and depression hit me hard. I put on a ton of weight and could not see the light at the end of the tunnel.

That year, I discovered the Joe Rogan podcast which had a profound impact on my life. It truly gave me hope and opened my mind up to the concept that there is a huge wide world out there. And one much bigger than the bubble I found myself in.

From then on, I indulged myself in books, podcasts and anything else that piqued my interest. A key book that sticks with me is Man’s Search for Meaning. And the biggest impact podcast was anything by Naval Ravikant.

2020 COVID hit, and myself (along with the majority of the population) experienced the fragility of human life and society. This, paired with my soul searching, delivered me an “F**K YOU” moment.

I went self-employed and continued to indulge in content that would expand my mind.

Key Lesson(s):

  • Consume content outside of your comfort zone/familiarity
  • Grow your contact base
  • Be bold and push yourself – you don’t have a lot to lose
  • Experiment and speak to as many people as possible
  • Do not care about what others think of you
  • Delete social media for personal use – it will ruin your mental health

 

Late 20’s

Without a doubt, the biggest changes happened over the last 5 years. From COVID to starting multiple businesses/ventures, to becoming a Dad, to finding myself in territory I never thought I would. It’s been quite a ride.

Whilst, unquestionably they have been the best years of my life, they’ve also been the toughest. I’ve worked my a** off, I’ve invested a lot of time and money into my ventures, my fitness and health levels are at their peak and I have survived year one of parenthood.

I’ve learnt so much in the world of running businesses (mostly through mistakes). I’ve made truly genuinely great connections with people I never thought I’d associate myself with. I’ve started to see the rewards of playing the ‘long game’ and not succumbing to the illusion of quick wins.

My key meditations:

  • Be patient
  • Meet, talk to, engage, nurture, and interact with as many people as you can
  • Work hard (or smart), but don’t push yourself to the point of burnout
  • Ignore the outside world – you have to make the world your own
  • Ignore instant gratification
  • Always be in it for the long term
  • Balance, balance, balance! Work is fun, but there is a whole world outside of your desk

Happy 30th to me.